Have you ever been punched in the guts so hard by life that you thought the path you are on just isn't worth the effort?

Have you ever been punched in the guts so hard by life that you thought the path you are on just isn't worth the effort?

2007 I was there

Everything I had worked for over the previous 5 years ripped away.

Half because something I thought was stable turn out to be built on quick sand. I was so angry with the builder.

But looking back I saw that help is one of the hardest things to ask for and often, we have no idea what someone else is going through.

The other half, a bitter woman scammed me out of a contract.

If you had spoken to me at the time I was in a flat out panic and would have likely said much less kind things.

But now I know that the people that lash out, are unusually the ones who feel most threatened and vulnerable.

Looking back you always iron things out. Your current position always look inevitable.

The pain goes, the lessons remain.

It took two years to battle back from there. 2010, an amazing Christmas where Christina and I celebrated.

Our grit, our soon to arrive first daughter and a much stronger relationship.

Two weeks later we were told the business I had built, 13 hours per day for two years. Was closing in 2 months.

I knew I could take a punch this time. I learned the hard way again that stability is an illusions and that people will always look after themselves first- and that is what they are supposed to do. There is always a perspective that shows you they had no choice. Find it and you'll move on quicker and have much less resentment.

I've seen many people skip the life of doing what they love in order to have stability but stability is 100% illusion.

Out of this chaos was born ‘absolute health’ a gym and healthcare centre built from all the past ruin. 2011-2017 a journey of huge mistakes, heart pounding drama, incredible fun and some big learning.

And ultimately the vehicle that allowed us to sell up and move to Denmark for our next adventure.

I've met some amazing people.

I've had the chance to influence or support thousands of people with my writing, talking at Tedx, and through training and coaching or just conversations about the things I'm passionate about.

Every mistake and set back provides a lesson that had I learned later would have cost me so much more.

I've learned,

that one of the easiest things to do while you're pressing forward, is forget to look back and see how far you've come.

I've learned that life will punch you in the stomach over and over, more are coming I know it.

If you've just been punched and things are feeling dark know that soon this will be dots on a beautiful picture that you'll look back on without the pain.

And when you look back, don't forget, that when you were down it wasn't just mental strength that picked you up.

There we people there too, people who have your back.

And the chances are, that some of them are being punched too. So while you're charging forwards, take a moment to appreciate and support and enjoy the people that helped to get you there.