Why things never seem to STAY better

Why things never seem to STAY better

“Things were really starting to look good then I hit a low point again.” He said to me.

He was the CEO of a growing investment firm with an exciting new approach to investing.

I said,

“…and they lived happily ever after.”

It’s just what popped into my mind.

It was so ingrained in us in childhood that we even silently say it to ourselves at the end of books and films when the writer left it out.

This then plays out in how we look at the world.

We suffer the downs.

We either withdraw into ourselves and from others.

Or we go into over drive and become overbearing to others.

Or some other version of who we don’t want to be that I call ‘Boss mode’.

Then we enjoy the ups.

We tell ourselves it’ll always be like this.

Finally, my happily ever after.

Then the inevitable low hits and we feel totally disillusioned.

Of course we are disillusioned and we should be.

We are living an illusion.

The dream life is that we get to play.

We get to play a game that matters to us, with people we like, in a way that’s meaningful to us.

It’s not about the doing, it’s really about who we get to be while doing.

That’s where our attention needs to be.

Ultimately if we’re doing things in a way we don’t enjoy, with people we aren’t enjoying working with, and we aren’t living a life we love - The inevitable downs will hurt so much more and last so much longer.

Are you building a life you love?