Some people have more dopamine receptors.
Others are driven by Oxytocin rewards.
In real terms that means the dopamine folks are never happier than when chasing. And the Oxytocin folks are never happier than when connecting.
It doesn’t mean that chasers don’t like to connect and it doesn’t mean connectors don’t like to achieve goals.
It could mean however that setting up work life to be goal chasing, competition, individual oriented might be the best thing you could do or it could be the most stressful, demotivating thing you could do.
Likewise setting up home life to be slow and relaxing might be just what you need or more stressful than work.
Humans are different, it might pay to lose the idea of what should be and create something that inspires you.