A Coaches guide to Clarity
A Coaches guide to Clarity
When a client tells me how they feel or how they want to feel my job is to come up with a skilful question that helps them find clarity, direction, focus, strategy.
The more precise I can be and help them to be the more clarity they get.
Below is my guide to 32 common states of being and some meanings that I find incredibly useful.
I’m not saying they are RIGHT I’m saying they are USEFUL. Perhaps you’ll find one or two that helps you to clarity.
Aimlessness - to be without something to aim at
Unfulfilment - to have nothing to fulfil or something preventing you from fulfilling it that you cannot see a way passed
Exhausted - more tasks you have labelled important than you have the energy to fulfil
Frustrated - the thing you wish worked doesn’t. Inaccurate prediction
Worried - No plan or scheduled time to create a plan
Depressed - a suppression of emotion
Joy - a moment of realisation or recognition, often unexpected
Blaming - self protection against judgment. Unconscious awareness of how our own actions contributed to the failure
Responsibility - the ability to respond to the situation
Anxiety - a fear of the future usually triggered by a toxic internal environment/ a body fighting hard to create balance
Success - Joyful progress. Gathering resources for the future
Growth - observation of progress
Disappointment - not being where you feel like you should be given your efforts based on goals or more likely, comparison
Authentic - A demonstrate on my values, beliefs, purpose
Delusion - thinking “should” not is (change is impossible here)
Freedom - the ability to choice
Stress - negative prediction of the future. Perceived loss of freedom
Self sabotage - deliberate and wilful destruction (not possible unless mental ill)
Anger - the reaction to perceive threat to hierarchy or life
Overwhelm - I can’t see a way to get what I want using the approach I’m currently using. Things moving too fast
Boredom - Too predictable, things moving too slow
Happiness - the absence of perceived threat in the current environment.
Impostor syndrome - Trying to live up to their expectations rather than own. (Values, belief, purpose undefined)
Hate - the realisation of what you know you’re capable of projected onto another. Own self image projected onto another
Curiosity - the Humble acknowledgment of your own ignorance
Love - acceptance, connection, and care
Grief - the loss of a predicted future
Motivation - the drive to do what ever is currently occupying your attention
Unmotivated - unfocused attention - poor health practises or social threat
Inspiration - the irresistible pull to act
Perfectionism- fear of judgement. Real life not matching imagination
Procrastination - what I’m doing now hold more value than what I say I want to do
Which one stood out for you?