Nobody really sees themselves as a victim or as playing the victim

Nobody really sees themselves as a victim or as playing the victim

I certainly didn’t anyway,

I would read about playing the victim in personal development books and I’d just skim over it thinking it wasn’t for me.

I was never really clear to me what it meant.

At the same time I would complain to my wife.

My clients don’t pay on time.

My staff don’t prepare for meetings and they end up running into time I’d planned for other things.

I had a whole bunch of reasons I didn’t have what I wanted and each reason began with THEY.

I didn’t realise I was playing the victim to justify why I didn’t have what I wanted.

And I was complicit because being the victim allowed me to avoid having an uncomfortable conversation and having to have the courage of my own conviction.

When I turned the THEYS to I’s, I had to face the truth.

I let my clients see me without paying

I accept meetings with no agenda

I looked at all the they statements that were causing frustration in my life and change them to I.

And as soon as I did I was back in control of my life.

When it’s THEY we have to change the whole world to have what we want.

When it’s I we just have to change our actions.

That doesn’t mean is easy but hard beats impossible, don’t you think?


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