Camp one is, I am, in this moment at least, an idiot and I don’t even know it. I’ve lost all perspective. I know from experience that this is a dangerous place to be. Largely because you, at the time, have no idea it’s you.

The receiver here would benefit from choosing not to be offended but rather should focus on having sympathy for someone looking for a much needed ego boost.

Try “interesting ideas John, I’ll certainly keep that in mind”.

It’s dangerous because when we don’t create our own answers we adopt those of the people we interact with and that will determine what we see and that will determine what we experience.

It’s the day to day questions to which we need answers we both believe and that support the life we desire.

HELL is the inevitable result of a failure to decide what you think and the whole world is set up to tell you what to think.

Location guilt seems to be the thing we’re talking about when we say work life balance

When we are at home we should be at work when at work we should be at home and that’s without throwing fitness and friends into the mix.

We end up only seeing friends that fit the formula and doing exercise that does too.

It can be like a constant battle for good enough or avoiding too many arguments or criticism.

The members and clientele were people I had created personal relationships with many of them for years before. Recently though a mass of members had joined that treated the place and people in it disrespectfully. I couldn’t see a way out, I felt like it was going to be a long journey what ever plan I created.

There is no such thing as a quick fix though right? Anything worth having takes time... right?

WRONG

We seem to have created a way of thinking that tells us that time is a more primary part of change than it is. We might say that it takes a lot of time to build a house or it take a long time to build a business or a relationship or a life.

But really those are all process driven. It takes the time those processes take, the quality of those processes, multiplied by the speed of execution.

How much do you charge? It’s the instinctive first question, it’s also the least informative. Coach is their label, what they are to you is a problem solver or rather a solved problem(s) is the side effect you’re looking for.

Your job when selecting a coach of any sort is to ascertain if they can facilitate that.