When we extract the lessons the memory shrinks and at the same time we become more whole in the present and better equipped to succeed at the same challenge.
Often my clients will produce exact steps of how to go about failing at the very challenge they have come to me for help with. With that comes the confident of success in the present.
Thought that might be a cool thing to know. I have found it seriously useful and often I’ll notice that I’m noticeably more relaxed from day to day.
It’s dangerous because when we don’t create our own answers we adopt those of the people we interact with and that will determine what we see and that will determine what we experience.
It’s the day to day questions to which we need answers we both believe and that support the life we desire.
HELL is the inevitable result of a failure to decide what you think and the whole world is set up to tell you what to think.
Read MoreChristina made this off hand comment to me while were skiing in France over Christmas
We were having that, are you going to make any New Years resolution conversation.
It sort of means, what would make next year better than this year when you think about it and I like that.
I had decided that I wanted to start growing my business in Denmark rather than just the Uk and I was unsure how I wanted to do it.
Read MoreI could say what I want to say to my boss or my employees without fear of what they might think.
I could dance like nobody was watching and single like nobody is listening.
And a million other things.
Some even hold it up like a badge or a flag they climbed up a mountain to plant.
“ I don’t care what anyone thinks!”
Read MoreLocation guilt seems to be the thing we’re talking about when we say work life balance
When we are at home we should be at work when at work we should be at home and that’s without throwing fitness and friends into the mix.
We end up only seeing friends that fit the formula and doing exercise that does too.
It can be like a constant battle for good enough or avoiding too many arguments or criticism.
Read MoreThe members and clientele were people I had created personal relationships with many of them for years before. Recently though a mass of members had joined that treated the place and people in it disrespectfully. I couldn’t see a way out, I felt like it was going to be a long journey what ever plan I created.
There is no such thing as a quick fix though right? Anything worth having takes time... right?
WRONG
Read MoreWe seem to have created a way of thinking that tells us that time is a more primary part of change than it is. We might say that it takes a lot of time to build a house or it take a long time to build a business or a relationship or a life.
But really those are all process driven. It takes the time those processes take, the quality of those processes, multiplied by the speed of execution.
