He didn’t know it but I was also living that meaning in that moment.
That’s what purpose is.
It’s not some off in the distance goal.
It’s who you are being in every moment.
Who you are in your relationship
How you parent
How you act with your friends
How you eat, sleep, exercise
How you lead.
It’s all pointed in that direction.
Read More2. You’re using hierarchy to move people.
You have become so wrapped up in urgency that you are crossing the boundaries into telling people what to do or doing things for them. This serves to make them think that they are useless and that you think you are better than them. Driving stress, poor culture, quiet quitting and high staff churn
3. You have become reliant upon short term negative consequences to cause you to act
Read More9. People will infer all possible meanings of the leaders communication. If the boss is being mis-interpreted it’s on them to get more skilful at communication.
10. If you interrupt people at their desk to ask for 5 minutes or for help NOW, task switching that is the culture you have chosen and it’s a stressful one to operate within.
11. When people don’t experience their own competence throughout the day their general state is anxious and overwhelmed. It’s on the leader to create that for everyone in the company.
Read More60% of first time CEOs report loneliness to the degree that it negatively impact performance.
Not surprisingly really
When polled public speaking comes out as # 1 of peoples greatest fears. That is to say, it ranks HIGHER than fear of death.
The Anterior Cingulate Cortex in the brain is on constant high alert to public failure and in particular INDIVIDUAL public failure.
Which is a thought that can make someone feel pretty alone and under the spot light.
Read MoreThese 9 things aren’t easy. They usually come as a set. If you can’t imagine doing one it’s probably because another one is not already in place that is making it seem impossible.
But if you want to be the calm, consistent and stable leader to your team you must operate yourself in a way that creates than calmness, consistency and clarity inside of you. You cannot fake it. The body, your words and your actions give off too many clues. You are the indicator that your team responds to. They will only change when you do.
Are you ready to start spreading calmness and clarity?
Or perhaps a better question, how much longer are you willing
Read MoreI should be helping more at home, I should be helping my team, I should be connecting with the customers and keeping them happy, the show ends if I don’t keep the board happy, I’m getting fat, unhealthy and my sleep is suffering I should be doing more for my health!
The first step I have my clients take is to let go of the should, the must, the have to, even if just for a while.
Focusing on what’s not being done only grows the feeling of hopelessness which grows that feeling of overwhelm and exhaustion.
Read MoreThat’s cool and you’ll get better and better at that with practise too but when there is opportunity to refine NOW your best gets better NOW. You are literally missing an opportunity to get better every time you fail to do this (I added that last line on my second run through this).
You don’t need to wait for your 100th book to produce something you’re proud of.
This ISN’T about perfection at all.
It’s about EXCELLENCE.
Which means taking a step towards more closely fulfilling your pre-defined criteria every time the opportunity arises.
An email is not just an email, a social media post not just a social media post, a book not just a book and a conversation not just a conversation.
Read MoreAdvice from a qualified source is rarely bad. People tend to give the advice that they need to hear and if they have been or are in a similar situation to you then its likely good advice.
If it’s the advice that they need to hear though it probably means that a. It worked for them but b. They weren’t able to stick to it.
This is what neuroscience teaches us.
Most often we know what to do, we just can’t get ourselves to consistently do it.
What follows is 3 examples of Good Advice that we struggle to take and what to do about it.
Read MoreContrary to popular belief this ISN’T because you are bad, wrong or because your team are.
In this video
* The belief that makes the need for motivation, willpower, urgency and control inevitable
* Why we actually struggle to achieve our goals and lead others to do the same
* The new understand that if we adopted will change everything from how you lead yourself to how you lead others
* The neuroscience understanding that will transform yours and your teams life
Read MoreMy clients love this way of thinking about stress because it moves it from the abstract feeling that needs ‘managing’ to something concrete that’s both normal, not ‘bad’ and most importantly actually provides huge growth for you and the business when faced skilfully.
So putting my neuroscience hat on for a moment stress is one of two things;
It’s a lack of prediction and response in the current environment.
or
2. It’s an unskillful prediction and response in the current environment.
Read More1. ADDING MORE ACTIONS
2. Using FORCE and WILLPOWER
3. Expecting MOTIVATION to be enough
It doesn’t matter how much you have had enough of your, low energy, constant phone use or working into the evening, ADDING more actions to an overwhelmed system will always result in more overwhelm.
FORCING in the new actions you THINK will help will always result in dropping it when motivation is low or something more critical comes up.
Read MoreI absolutely LOVE working with leaders who are inspired to build something amazing while also uniting a group of people behind that cause. The truth is that they are highly competent individuals BUT in MOST cases the skills that got them to where they are are the exact same skills that are causing their struggles in health, energy, communication and relationship.
Through my REINVENTION programme I support them to adopt the skills of understanding and embracing their brain to use it more to their advantage. Using prediction and response to create calm in themselves and others and using curiosity to give themselves and others the clarity they need to become autonomous and happy.
Read MoreWhen you’re in leader mode you’re demonstrating the behaviours you want to see. You are looking after your health, protecting your boundaries so that you can get your work done, support others and have a life. You understand failure and support others to do their best and grow in their position.
When you’re in ‘boss mode’ you are as I teach my client, ‘out of your mind’ where you are expecting others to mind read, to sacrifice their lives for their job to help others at any time while also doing their own work and to never fail.
It doesn’t matter how much you have had enough of your, low energy, constant phone use or working into the evening, ADDING more actions to an overwhelmed system will always result in more overwhelm.
FORCING in the new actions you THINK will help will always result in dropping it when motivation is low or something more critical comes up.
Forcing new ACTION into an already overwhelmed schedule will NEVER create, uh... whelm.
Don’t get me wrong. ADDING in the diet, the meditation, the exercise, the yoga or what ever system it might be that promises to finally create that feeling of grounded presence and energy, are all powerful strategies.
But they are NOT the first step if you find yourself in this position, they are more like the 13th or 14th step.
I get it, if you feel like you’re living reactively and constantly being pulled out of the moment it makes total sense to add in meditation that has been proven to improve attention and focus.
Read MoreYou don’t have a GREED or LAZINESS problem
It’s true, you might have a problem that manifests it’s self in excess fat storage.
It’s also true that part of the ingredients of that problem might be an overconsumption of calories for the amount you are burning from day to day.
But laziness, as in the deliberate and wilful resistance of movement is not nor never has been the problem.
Nor is the problem the deliberate drive towards overconsumption of calories to the point of discomfort at each and every meal because you want it ALL for yourself.
Read MoreI could say what I want to say to my boss or my employees without fear of what they might think.
I could dance like nobody was watching and single like nobody is listening.
And a million other things.
Some even hold it up like a badge or a flag they climbed up a mountain to plant.
“ I don’t care what anyone thinks!”
Read MoreThe world is falling apart, what do you think will happen?
Seems to be the question so many people are asking, chaos seems to be looming and our instinct is to reach to find any form of certainty even if by guessing at the worst possible outcome.
Okay, first and foremost I am not making light here. I’m not suggesting that I am happy about what has happened. Neither am I suggesting that no businesses have fallen victim to the current or future side effects or what’s happening at the moment.
However, there were 5 things that were important before this that have now significantly increased in importance and that I believe is a good thing.
In fact they were ALWAYS the most important things but now and going forward their consequences will result in more rapid and undesirable feedback.
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