Getting defensive

Withdrawing from some people

Explaining to people how they’re wrong

Getting agree when people cancel on me

Basically being someone other than I wanted to be with others.

I was pretty relieved when I discovered everyone has their own version of this going on.

Although probably a far less sarcastic version.

The brain is always measuring our level of safety within the tribe

Via a part of the brain called the Anterior Cingulate Cortex (mostly) it constantly scans for risk of loss or opportunity to gain hierarchy and connection.

1. ADDING MORE ACTIONS

2. Using FORCE and WILLPOWER

3. Expecting MOTIVATION to be enough

It doesn’t matter how much you have had enough of your, low energy, constant phone use or working into the evening, ADDING more actions to an overwhelmed system will always result in more overwhelm.

FORCING in the new actions you THINK will help will always result in dropping it when motivation is low or something more critical comes up.

Your success as a leader will be determined by how you deal with people.

It won’t be defined by your ideas, problem solving, charisma, or brilliance but by how people feel in your organisation.

Do they love working with you and for you. Do they feel valued, inspired, fairly treated, well supported?

This is not just about your current project but will echo into your future.

You don’t have a GREED or LAZINESS problem

It’s true, you might have a problem that manifests it’s self in excess fat storage.

It’s also true that part of the ingredients of that problem might be an overconsumption of calories for the amount you are burning from day to day.

But laziness, as in the deliberate and wilful resistance of movement is not nor never has been the problem.

Nor is the problem the deliberate drive towards overconsumption of calories to the point of discomfort at each and every meal because you want it ALL for yourself.

The members and clientele were people I had created personal relationships with many of them for years before. Recently though a mass of members had joined that treated the place and people in it disrespectfully. I couldn’t see a way out, I felt like it was going to be a long journey what ever plan I created.

There is no such thing as a quick fix though right? Anything worth having takes time... right?

WRONG