Love yourself thin?

She was about 8 stone over weight and to the best of her knowledge had been all of her adult life. 

She trained, she trained hard three times per week and she had a diet plan. 

A plan that if followed would undoubtedly have delivered the result she desired. 

...and she SO desired it, it wasn't weeks or months that rolled by without much progress. It was years. 

I regard that level of commitment without yield to be breath taking. 

I didn't see her for about a year, and then I bumped into her on a high street. 

I didn't recognise her. 

"Wow 😳 All that hard work paid off in the end I see."

"Yes it did". She said 

She was now what I would guess was a small size 8. I didn't even think that size was possible for her frame. I was wrong. She looked good but also, SO MUCH happier.

"You seem very happy?" I questioned. 

*To tell you the truth she was a moody sod when I knew her. 

We stood and chatted for a while, it sounded for a minute like she had just kept plugging away at the pt and diet and in year 4 it finally came together. 

A true story of grit. 

Then she started telling me about her life and future plans. It seemed she had met someone and fallen in love. 

Just over a year ago in fact. 

Same diet plan, same training, a new love. 

There is this thing that happens when we fall in love, our brains is pumped full of oxytocin. We fall in love with not just the person but our lives. 

4 years previous she had had a conversation with herself that went a little like this: 

"I will be happy when I'm thin... "

And she went for it, the trouble was that her dissatisfaction with her life kept pulling her back. It kept leading her to moments of WHATS THE POINT and comfort eating and even Self pity. 

What she discovered, 

What I discover too was that 

She became thin when she put her happiness first, at the start of your goal. Now. 

We
She
I
Society 

Had. 

Have, the equation the wrong way around.

I'm not saying we need to fall in love 

I'm not saying love = thin 

I'm saying when you create a life you love now you are much more easily able to do the things you say you want to do. 

You'll never create a life you love doing the things you loath. 

If you have a... I'll be happy when 

Flip it. 

What can you do today to make you feel the way you want to feel at the end of your goal?

Add stuff now. 

Ed Ley 

Ps please don't get caught up in the romance of this or let yourself be turned off by it or blame your partner. Get ruthlessly practical. 

What stuff do you love doing that you aren't? 

What adventures do you want to have that you're avoiding? 

What people do you love to see that you don't?

What clothes do you love that you aren't wearing regularly?