So I'm sat in Argos because we have massively underestimated how much stuff we have still to pack.

Two more giant suitcases please. 

It's been a strange final day as different realisations dawn on us. 

We've just sold the business we built over the last 6 years. 

We are changing our children's whole perception of reality. 

We've just removed our source of income and we are gambling our future by betting that we can recreate an income just doing what we love. 

From a different country. 

We've just given or thrown away almost all of our stuff. 

I am leaving the place I've called home for 35 years and Christina 13 years. 

But as we chat about it we realise that the little things weighing on Christina's mind aren't on mine and vice versa. 

"Oh, I don't think about it like that, I see it more like this..." 

and the worry disappears. 

We have the tendency with worries and fears to ask why. We disappear down a rabbit hole of misattribution. 

Our why seeks to explain the emotion and in doing so it finds justification for keeping it. 

The great thing about relationships is that when we speak we can quickly see our emotion is the product of a faulty thought pattern. 

We change our why for a what. 

Like, what's a more useful way of thinking about this?

Fear most often leads to in-action or reactivity and in today's world is almost always a product of wrong though not imminent death.

Why questions help you keep your fear.

What questions help you move it. 

Carry on 

Ed Ley