You’re supposed to be yourself and say what you think which is the extreme opposite of the old advice, ‘fake it til you make it’.
I speak to leaders all the time who say words to the effect of,
“I know I know my stuff, I know I know my business, why can’t I shake this impostor feeling?”
I absolutely LOVE working with leaders who are inspired to build something amazing while also uniting a group of people behind that cause. The truth is that they are highly competent individuals BUT in MOST cases the skills that got them to where they are are the exact same skills that are causing their struggles in health, energy, communication and relationship.
Through my REINVENTION programme I support them to adopt the skills of understanding and embracing their brain to use it more to their advantage. Using prediction and response to create calm in themselves and others and using curiosity to give themselves and others the clarity they need to become autonomous and happy.
Read MoreEventually every leader realises that you can have all the success in the world. But if you don’t have good quality time and energy left to spend with the people you love then it’s all for nothing. But when it was HUSTLE and HARD WORK that got you where you are it can be hard to believe there is any other way. Yet believe you MUST if you are to start taking steps towards creating it.
Read MoreSuccessful leaders seem to have more patience, more presence and more time. They never seem in a rush or to be OVERWHELMED by business and life. Ultimately the difference between the successful and the overwhelmed leaders is what they DO. In this ‘mini series’ I will highlight the 10 major differences between my SUCCESS clients and struggling leaders I speak to.
Read MoreYou don’t have a GREED or LAZINESS problem
It’s true, you might have a problem that manifests it’s self in excess fat storage.
It’s also true that part of the ingredients of that problem might be an overconsumption of calories for the amount you are burning from day to day.
But laziness, as in the deliberate and wilful resistance of movement is not nor never has been the problem.
Nor is the problem the deliberate drive towards overconsumption of calories to the point of discomfort at each and every meal because you want it ALL for yourself.
Read Morehere is this really funny thing that happens when someone does their first triathlon.
They take their time to make sure they are well prepared.
They relentlessly practise their swimming, their cycling and running to the degree where they are MORE than competent at each.
Yet something quite unexpected happens.
Their recorded time is often DOUBLE what they expected.
The equation in their head during preparation was,
Swim + Cycle + run = triathlon
The reality, any hardened triathlete will tell you, is VERY different.
There are a million different ingredients that are hard to list even if you have experienced them.
Tasks so small as to seem irrelevant.
Like putting socks on with wet feet or trainers on to once wet now sweaty swollen feet to start the run.
Read MoreIt notices hormonal, postural, tonal and pitch changes in others and then changes how we feel in order to guide us towards making decisions that might save ours or even our children’s lives all without us being consciously aware of it.
Again, I won’t go into detail here but the important question I think is,
Is it more likely that this incredible piece of equipment is broken in some way, that we somehow have to contend with a lazy, demotivated, angry, shy, anxious, overwhelmed, depressed or stressed model?
Read MoreThere have long been stories from practitioners working in mental health clinics of anxious or depressed people carrying a particular sweet odour.
Sometimes it’s easy to forget we are animals.
Our senses are constantly on high alert for changes in the environment.
Detecting a subtle rise in testosterone in the group (smell) you are in could be the difference between a good and bad night today, years ago it might have saved a life or two I can imagine.
Read MoreCamp one is, I am, in this moment at least, an idiot and I don’t even know it. I’ve lost all perspective. I know from experience that this is a dangerous place to be. Largely because you, at the time, have no idea it’s you.
The receiver here would benefit from choosing not to be offended but rather should focus on having sympathy for someone looking for a much needed ego boost.
Try “interesting ideas John, I’ll certainly keep that in mind”.
Read MoreThey used to freak me out too cos I had this idea that I needed to know the steps to get there even if they didn’t.
Now I look forward to hearing what they say because it’s just so blood inspiring to watch.
But the myth that comes with the idea of achieving the dream is that we have to do something radical, that’s what stops them including it too.
Read MoreA big part of the process of moving to Denmark was to sell our gym and health care business in the Uk.
I had no idea how to go about it so I contacted a couple of business sellers.
They all asked to see the last few years accounts as well as have all of my equipment valued.
They each came back with the same figure.
“We believe we can get you £180,000 cash within the next 6 month Sir.”
Read MoreImagine this. A three-year-old girl returns home from nursery one day with a piece of artwork she has created.
Mum and dad take the piece of artwork, look at it, and say "wow, that's amazing, I love it, I'm so proud of you. come here give me a hug. You are just brilliant”.
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