Nobody really sees themselves as a victim or as playing the victim

I certainly didn’t anyway,

I would read about playing the victim in personal development books and I’d just skim over it thinking it wasn’t for me.

How many times have you told yourself the future is going to be great if you just get the the other side of the present hell?

Unfortunately that’s rarely true.

The future isn’t bright, only the present can be bright.

I sold my gym and healthcare business in 2017 and decided to quit the hustle

I didn’t want to work 13 hour days any more.

I spent a lot of time reviewing my approach back then which could be best described as Do everything you can think of to achieve I don’t know what… success?

Stop calling it procrastination and just tell the absolute truth

I’m not saying you’re lying, but…

Don’t say I’m procrastinating say,

STOP 🛑 Starting with Why


It’s not helping your mental health


That not a dig at Simon Sinek.

It’s about mental health.

You are struggling with your mental health because you are making all the WRONG choices.

Make better choices… is that really true?

That’s the narrative around health and mental health right now and it’s hard to dispute.

I was told in my late teens and early twenties by enough people for it to get to me that I was arrogant.

What I thought it meant was something like unsubstantiated confidence.

I didn’t want to come across that way so to be sure I looked it up.

The definition was something like

Success

It could be hard to achieve if you don’t know what it means to you.

Or perhaps you already have it defined but your definition is causing you to suffer?

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If you were aiming for EXCELLENCE. And you were clear that excellence meant to improve upon what you did last time.

There is a temptation to play amateur psychologist

To diagnose their behaviour.

We want to reduce them to cause and effect.

When success means winning the game you’ve opened yourself up to a roller coaster of stress

When the process didn’t produce the predicted result you’re behind, losing, a loser.

Each mistake, error, ignorance or incompetence is met with anger and frustration as all was not what you expected or hoped for

“I’m not drinking today mate. I’ve got some things on that are REALLY important to me and so I want to have a clear head tomorrow .”

I remember the first time I said it.

And I really meant it.

A positive prediction of the future followed by a positive response

^^ that is how neuroscience defines thriving

This is leadership

Think of something you currently do that you wish you didn’t…

Do you have it in mind?

Have you struggled to stop 🛑 despite knowing the cost of doing it, the logic and benefits of stopping?

Have you tried both carrot and stick?

I’m guessing the answer is yes.

I worked with this guy Andrew which isn’t his real name but he was a successful founder.

Well liked by board, peers and his team.

He also had a secret.

He lived in fear of being exposed as an imposter which really means that he

“How would you like to feel by the end of the year?”

I asked him, let’s call him James.

James was the CPO of a

The Worst Days End Reactively

That’s not even quite it. It’s more like cruise control has been engaged taking you on a path of least resistance.

You’re in an Ego depleted state, no longer capable of

I know this sounds a little WOO WOO but

what I have learned from working with a LOT of business leaders is that like energy attracts like energy.

I guess you could say that feelings attract feelings or states attract states.

For example we don’t just

13 Inconvenient Neuroscience Based Leadership Truths

1. Hierarchy in position 99% of the time means that the leader has lower level of stress than others when faced with the exact same challenge.