On saying goodbye

So we are into our last week now. 

The weekend was pretty rough. 

It's been a nice weekend saying good bye to people which ultimately involves spending time with a lot of people we really care about. 

The reality of what goodbye means is really hitting the girls though. 

They've seen school friends for the last time, they have seen some life long friends for the last time. 

They said goodbye to their trampoline on Sunday, something they have spent an hour a day with for 3 years. 

They haven't mentioned any of these things but they have cried over seat belts, plates, chair positioning and a whole host of things they wouldn't normally care about. 

They are falsely attributing emotion to things they feel like they can control. 

This in a nutshell is something we all do. 

Money, body shape, clothes, house, relationships, our job our business. 

We seek an actionable place to attach our dis-ease. We most often attach it to the thing we feel we can most easily impact or control. 

I'll be happy when... 

... I fix my diet
... I lose weight
... I make more money 

Insert situation here. 

In doing so we allow the future to hold our happiness prisoner. 

We attempt to create a life we love by doing things we loath and end up creating the opposite. 

In reality if we can't find a way to do the things we love we need to find a way to love the things we do. 

I'm doing this because it allows me to.... 

Ed Ley