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People Often Think that Coaching is About Giving Advice but the Truth is, Most Advice Sucks

Nobody says to themselves ‘TODAY I will overwork and negatively impact my health and relationships.’

Just like nobody saying to themselves ‘today I will under work and jeopardise the success of the business and my career.’

We all know this really.

It is BELIEF that drives action and ADVICE seldom changes belief.

So even with awareness of the particular case, actually seeing evidence of overwork or underwork the advice is ignorant at BEST.

This didn’t come to me in a moment of realisation.

HABITSEd Ley16 December 2020advice, trust, truth, coach, coaching, realisation

Advice falls into one of 4 camps

Camp one is, I am, in this moment at least, an idiot and I don’t even know it. I’ve lost all perspective. I know from experience that this is a dangerous place to be. Largely because you, at the time, have no idea it’s you.

The receiver here would benefit from choosing not to be offended but rather should focus on having sympathy for someone looking for a much needed ego boost.

Try “interesting ideas John, I’ll certainly keep that in mind”.

LEARNINGEd Ley5 October 2020coach, copenhagen coach, Hellerup coach, advice, stress, relationships, overwhelm, advisor, coaching, teaching, consulting, consultant, connection, care, judgement, criticsim, Ed Ley