There have long been stories from practitioners working in mental health clinics of anxious or depressed people carrying a particular sweet odour.
Sometimes it’s easy to forget we are animals.
Our senses are constantly on high alert for changes in the environment.
Detecting a subtle rise in testosterone in the group (smell) you are in could be the difference between a good and bad night today, years ago it might have saved a life or two I can imagine.
Read MoreRead the same book again. All learning is associative. This means if your intent is to integrate the knowledge in the book you’re reading into your life then your best bet is to read it again.
To make notes.
To re-read those notes and to tell a bunch of people about it.
Someone else might read 3 books in the time you read your book.
Read MoreI’m fat so I’ll act like I think a fat person would.
I’m a loser so I’ll act like a loser would.
We enter into a never ending spiral of self hatred or something.
Really what we’re looking at is a flaw in the English language.
We can’t actually BE any of those things.
Read MoreCamp one is, I am, in this moment at least, an idiot and I don’t even know it. I’ve lost all perspective. I know from experience that this is a dangerous place to be. Largely because you, at the time, have no idea it’s you.
The receiver here would benefit from choosing not to be offended but rather should focus on having sympathy for someone looking for a much needed ego boost.
Try “interesting ideas John, I’ll certainly keep that in mind”.
Read MoreWhen we extract the lessons the memory shrinks and at the same time we become more whole in the present and better equipped to succeed at the same challenge.
Often my clients will produce exact steps of how to go about failing at the very challenge they have come to me for help with. With that comes the confident of success in the present.
Thought that might be a cool thing to know. I have found it seriously useful and often I’ll notice that I’m noticeably more relaxed from day to day.
It’s dangerous because when we don’t create our own answers we adopt those of the people we interact with and that will determine what we see and that will determine what we experience.
It’s the day to day questions to which we need answers we both believe and that support the life we desire.
HELL is the inevitable result of a failure to decide what you think and the whole world is set up to tell you what to think.
Read MoreChristina made this off hand comment to me while were skiing in France over Christmas
We were having that, are you going to make any New Years resolution conversation.
It sort of means, what would make next year better than this year when you think about it and I like that.
I had decided that I wanted to start growing my business in Denmark rather than just the Uk and I was unsure how I wanted to do it.
Read MoreThe members and clientele were people I had created personal relationships with many of them for years before. Recently though a mass of members had joined that treated the place and people in it disrespectfully. I couldn’t see a way out, I felt like it was going to be a long journey what ever plan I created.
There is no such thing as a quick fix though right? Anything worth having takes time... right?
WRONG
Read MoreWe did this thing when I was a kid when we sat down to eat as a family where we would thank God for our food before we ate.
I never completely understood why and I was never completely comfortable doing it but clearly made an impact on me. This was a practise recommended in the Bible.
Regardless of whether you believe in a God or not for a book to survive as long as it has is pretty mind blowing and it is clearly packed with wisdom. It got me thinking about gratitude.
We seem to have created a way of thinking that tells us that time is a more primary part of change than it is. We might say that it takes a lot of time to build a house or it take a long time to build a business or a relationship or a life.
But really those are all process driven. It takes the time those processes take, the quality of those processes, multiplied by the speed of execution.
How much do you charge? It’s the instinctive first question, it’s also the least informative. Coach is their label, what they are to you is a problem solver or rather a solved problem(s) is the side effect you’re looking for.
Your job when selecting a coach of any sort is to ascertain if they can facilitate that.
