⭕️ You will never fully convince someone they are wrong, only reality can. Support them to expose their reality
⭕️ The place you most need to go is hidden where you least want to look. Get a coach, board, mentor and give them freedom to challenge you.
⭕️ There is no evolution without skin in the game. Evolution is often dependent upon facing your fears.
Read MoreGood leaders are good at grinding out those difficult weeks that come with big decisions and many business critical things outside of their control. The trouble is that the grind creates survival habits and a survival environment that serves to make these weeks more stressful and the rest of the time recovery for leader and company.
Great leaders step back and find the perspective shift required to embrace what ever comes allowing them separate their choices from their current level of certainty about the future. Whether chaos or calm, it’s chop wood carry water.
Read MoreHe didn’t know it but I was also living that meaning in that moment.
That’s what purpose is.
It’s not some off in the distance goal.
It’s who you are being in every moment.
Who you are in your relationship
How you parent
How you act with your friends
How you eat, sleep, exercise
How you lead.
It’s all pointed in that direction.
Read MoreDid you fail to fulfil your commitments to put your health and energy first yesterday.
Or did you, despite the chaos, take the very steps required to energise yourself putting you in the best possible state for the day.
Did you get sucked into your phone or laptop after work.
Or did you keep your commitment to be present with your family.
Did you operate through anxiety, overwhelm or stress.
Or did you create clarity, peace and focus.
Did you get pulled into urgency, operating reactively
Read MoreThe brain is a survival machine that creates survival mechanisms to protect itself.
Many of these protection mechanisms can inadvertently cause problems inside an organisation.
The leaders must master these 8 skills to not be taken over by these mechanisms.
That is in part, what it means to lead.
To own your own emotions and behaviours in response to what is happening around you.
Which of these 8 do you most need to place your attention on?
Read MoreMy clients love this way of thinking about stress because it moves it from the abstract feeling that needs ‘managing’ to something concrete that’s both normal, not ‘bad’ and most importantly actually provides huge growth for you and the business when faced skilfully.
So putting my neuroscience hat on for a moment stress is one of two things;
It’s a lack of prediction and response in the current environment.
or
2. It’s an unskillful prediction and response in the current environment.
Read More1. ADDING MORE ACTIONS
2. Using FORCE and WILLPOWER
3. Expecting MOTIVATION to be enough
It doesn’t matter how much you have had enough of your, low energy, constant phone use or working into the evening, ADDING more actions to an overwhelmed system will always result in more overwhelm.
FORCING in the new actions you THINK will help will always result in dropping it when motivation is low or something more critical comes up.
Read MoreBusiness leaders tend to wear ‘hard work’ as a badge of honour. Arriving first, leaving last and then continuing to work into the evening often stay up til midnight and beyond.
They do this despite the fact that they aren’t being paid to work hard. They are being paid to keep the business in high performance mode and the best way to do that is to keep themselves in high performance mode. A tired and overwhelmed leader will soon start making decisions based on their own limited bandwidth and will quickly create a tired and overwhelm business. I help my clients to find and protect their own high performance mode so that they can better support the business to locate and maintain high performance mode.
There’s the peers path, this one seems safe and familiar. It’s full of the me too’s of shared experience. But often me too’s are of shared suffering of disconnected relationships, illness, back pain and what’s wrong with people who don’t think like us.
There’s the praise path, this path is often intoxicating as first we acted and got applause. Now we act for the applause and find ourselves pandering to it. It controls our choices and so direction. We are blown where ever the wind takes us and physically suffer, first only when the applause is silent then always as we see the difference between acceptance and entertainment.
Read MoreI’m fat so I’ll act like I think a fat person would.
I’m a loser so I’ll act like a loser would.
We enter into a never ending spiral of self hatred or something.
Really what we’re looking at is a flaw in the English language.
We can’t actually BE any of those things.
Read MoreWe seem to have created a way of thinking that tells us that time is a more primary part of change than it is. We might say that it takes a lot of time to build a house or it take a long time to build a business or a relationship or a life.
But really those are all process driven. It takes the time those processes take, the quality of those processes, multiplied by the speed of execution.
How much do you charge? It’s the instinctive first question, it’s also the least informative. Coach is their label, what they are to you is a problem solver or rather a solved problem(s) is the side effect you’re looking for.
Your job when selecting a coach of any sort is to ascertain if they can facilitate that.
